Congratulations! You’ve finally found the time and money to go on a couple’s vacation. If your partner is not the traveling type, it must have taken some serious convincing to get them on board with the plan. But you succeeded, and you both really deserve this vacation.
This is one of those vacations you don’t want to go wrong. It must be one of those experiences memories are made of. So, how do you go about making it one of your life’s best experiences?
Well, this is different for all couples, but there are some things that you want to avoid while traveling with your significant other. If you are going on a vacation with your partner, be sure to avoid the following common mistakes couples often make:
Your happiness is often determined by the gap between reality and your expectations. If reality is better than or equal to your expectations, you will be thrilled. If the reality is worse than your expectations, you will definitely be less than thrilled.
Managing your expectations is therefore very important if you are going to enjoy your vacation with your partner. Since you are two different people with two different expectations, it is important that you sit down and discuss what you expect from your trip.
Having different expectations as pertains to budget, itinerary, things to do, and sex can totally ruin your vacation. You want to have the same expectations as your partner going into the trip.
Not Drawing up a Budget Together
Money is one of the major causes of arguments in relationships. To leave your vacation budget undetermined is asking for a messy trip.
You should draw up a budget with your partner before you embark on the journey. You don’t have to strictly follow the budget, but it helps if you have a general outline from which both of you can work from.
Roughing it up During the First Trip
For the sake of adventure or because money is limited, some couples choose to go on rough trips such as camping trips. This is okay if you’ve been traveling together for some time. However, if you are traveling together for the very first time, this isn’t the right thing to do.
For your first trip together, you want to be as comfortable as possible. Since your choice of accommodation will be one of the main factors that determine how comfortable your trip is, go for a mid-tier to luxury accommodation but not low-end budget accommodation.
There are several great resorts that offer discounted rates for couples. Some of them offer all-inclusive packages and you can save a significant amount of money if you negotiate a good deal with them.
Letting Family Come Along
A couple’s vacation, as the name suggests, is intended for two people who are romantically involved. Bringing a family member along makes it a family vacation and not a couple’s vacation. If you are looking for a romantic getaway, be sure you aren’t choosing a family-friendly resort, because these are designed to entertain children.
This is an opportunity to have lots of quality time with your significant other. You don’t want to complicate it by having someone else around.
If there is a family member who wants to come along, explain to them courteously why it is important to you that this vacation be just about you and your partner. They will totally understand and give you the space you need.
Not Doing Travel Planning Together
As mentioned earlier, you want to go to the trip with the same expectations as your partner. If both of you are not involved in the planning of the vacation, you will have different ideas about how the vacation will actually turn out.
Planning the vacation together allows both of you to say what you each want to do so you can reach a compromise that works for you as a couple. It is not a one-person show–you are in it together.
Getting a Pre-Packaged Couple’s Vacation
Choosing a pre-packaged couple’s vacation is like going on another person’s vacation. It won’t be truly yours. Every couple has their own personality and it is difficult for a travel company to put together a package that suits all traveling couples.
For this reason, if you book with a tour company that offers packaged trips, ask them if they can allow you to modify the itinerary to suit what you like. Most travel companies will be willing to help you put together an itinerary that suits both your needs and what they can offer.
The Bottom Line
Having a great vacation with your significant other depends as much on the things you shouldn’t do as the things you should do. If you avoid most of the critical mistakes that can ruin a couple’s vacation, you will be halfway to having one of the best vacations of your life.
Most importantly, you need to ensure that your expectations are aligned. Going on the same vacation with your partner when your expectations for the trip are totally different is a recipe for disaster.